Let’s be honest, before you had your children you and your partner used to go on regular date nights. Whether it was watching a movie, visiting friends or simply going on a coffee date you spent plenty of quality time together.
Now that you have children you don’t seem to find the time for each other. This unfortunately often leads to unwanted heartbreak and arguments. Not to worry, there is a simple solution to make things better again and that is date nights. Regular date nights with your partner are very important and it will help you reconnect with each other again. The best part is that grandma and grandpa will love the idea of babysitting!
Communication Is key
The most important part in a relationship is communication. Communication is not just the act of talking, but also expressing ones feelings and thoughts with each other. The way that you speak to your partner will also determine how they will respond back to you. Besides that, everyone has something to talk about, whether its about a new promotion that you got at work or maybe you had a bad day. We all need a shoulder to cry on sometimes. By communicating to your partner it will show them that you still care about them and their well-being. Plan regular date nights and surprise your partner with a nice outing.
Relax And Unwind
When the two of you go out on date nights and your children are safe at your parents place you can sit back and indulge in each other’s company like you used to before. Being alone together will help you loosen up and think back about the times you spent alone together. It will bring back the fondest of memories and love. You will also notice that you are able to express yourself much better now that you are relaxed and alone. This will help both of you to handle future situations better and you will find ways to calm down sooner.
Emotion And Affection
When was the last time that you gave your partner a big and long hug or a goodnight kiss? All relationships crave love and affection and everyone wants to feel wanted. Show your partner that you still care about them by holding their hand when you go out in public or sit next to them and give them a big and warm hug.
Commitment
Going on regular date nights will show your partner that you are committed to your relationship. It will show them that you really care and that you are willing to go the extra mile for the sake of both of your happiness. Just remember to stick to the plans that you made with your partner and not to cancel it without first discussing it with them and you need to have a good excuse.
Compliments
Who doesn’t love being complimented? Take the opportunity and compliment your partner everyday or whenever you can. The have been playing a huge role in your life and have always been there for you. You wouldn’t have come so far if it wasn’t also for the role they had played in your life. A happy relationship takes two people to make things work. Also be proud of the wonderful parent they are to your children.
There are so many ideas to have fun together and a date night with your partner will surely change things to be better. Parenting is a hard and amazing job and it requires you to be happy and and you both deserve a lovely break together.
Mamas Blossom
xxx
You hit the nail on the head! My hubby and I found out first hand what not going on dates can do to a marriage.We didn’t go out for years and were fighting constantly, almost ended things. We started going out on date nights when he was home and even lunch dates and our marriage started coming back together. It’s hard when you don’t have grandma grandpa or any family of that matter to watch your kids because well you don’t trust anyone with your kids lol. I had to make friends and know them for awhile before I let them watch my kids. That was my problem, I didn’t like making new friends, my social anxiety was getting in the way and it was hard for me. Last year my daughter turned 12 and was old enough to babysit! She took the babysitters course and first aid and cpr courses first of course before I let her watch her baby sister. It’s super hard when you move around and it takes you so long to trust anyone or make any friends. Anyway this is becoming a lot longer than I intended. Great read!! And every couple should have a date night at least once a month!
Hi Felicia. I know the arguments are ever-lasting haha…. and it hurts especially if you have a wonderful relationship with your husband like I have. We try to go out alone regularly. I also agree with you it is very difficult to find someone you trust to babysit your chirldren especially in today’s life. Very clever of you that you let your daughter took that courses and I’m glad that she can help her mommy!
This is so good! I even want to say that it’s important that when you get married you need to make time for date nights. You can get stuck in a rut and never make time to “date” like you did before getting married. Then when you have kids you’re already in a great date night routine. It’s definitely so so important for the health of your relationship and communication.
So very true Nicole. Date nights are very important and should happen atleast once a month if not more. It’s the perfect opportunity to discuss the little annoying things that pop up of which you don’t agree with your partner.
A wonderfully important point to keep relationships healthy and alive, Leana! And interesting and fresh of course! I love all the reasons and ways you’ve listed! All are easy to follow. Thank you. When our son was a baby we just enjoyed each other’s company by watching movies, walks in the terrace or visits to the park. Easy because we lived in a research institute campus. Plus we could converse without our son understanding 🙃 such beautiful memories!
Hi Vidya. I’m very glad that you were able to enjoy each other’s company and you made time to do so. That is most important and movies and walks definitely count as dates! 🙂